For many, the idea of couples counseling can be incredibly intimidating. After all, it is often seen as a sign that there is something irreparably wrong with a relationship. Because film and television often portray this type of counseling as the last step before an inevitable split, many people think that it’s their last shot to make things work.

At Two Rivers Therapy, we’re happy to say that this couldn’t be further from the truth. That’s why in today’s post, we’ll be breaking things down a little bit more to help provide some much-needed clarity on the subject. When approached with a positive attitude, counseling can be an incredible beneficial and life-giving aspect of any partnership. If that sounds like something that’s appealing to you, keep reading to learn more.

Couples Therapy Is Perfect For…

New Parents

Perhaps you’re in a relationship that has been moving along smoothly for many years. Recently, you decided together to become parents. Whether through birth or adoption, having a new child in your life means that there are several things that will be changing. This is normal, of course, but it’s also quite frightening. 

Needless to say, having a child to take care of introduces a new dynamic to your relationship, and you just don’t have time for the things that you used to. Why not come in and talk things through? A therapist can provide you with the tools you need to move forward confidently into this new chapter in your life.

New Promotions

When your partner gets a promotion at work, it can come with mixed emotions. You’re excited for him or her, of course, but once again, it will mean making a few changes. For example, will your significant other need a different schedule in order to get this work done? Perhaps it will mean having more responsibility and that could mean having to put in more hours at the office.

There’s a fair amount of worry, to be sure, but it’s also thrilling to see your partner grow and succeed, and if the promotion comes with an increase in pay, that’s exciting as well! It can be difficult to parse through all of these feelings on your own and it can be even more challenging to know how to talk about them without sounding like you’re not happy. Seeing a therapist can help to foster these conversations.

Recurring Problems

When you’ve been in a relationship for awhile, you might notice that arguments tend to arise around the same topics. This is completely normal! Spending a lot of time with the same person can do this, and that’s true even if you agree on almost everything.

It may seem like a small problem, but figuring out how to get unstuck from the rut of a recurring argument can feel very freeing. After all, it doesn’t have to be an all-out screaming match for it to start taking a toll (or to need some attention). Couples counseling is a smart move because it allows everyone to approach the problem with a level head, guided by an expert who can help you to navigate the reasons that the argument keeps coming up.

Offering Professional, Personal, Effective Couples Counseling in Portland

When you visit Two Rivers Therapy, you’ll find that Dr. Post-Holmberg will listen deeply and carefully and then work together with you to reprocess the old and find a path forward that’s life affirming for your entire partnership. With a focus on what works for you, we can sit, stand, or walk during your sessions because your comfort is the most important aspect of our time together. Learn more about couples counseling and feel free to reach out with any questions that you may have about the process.

No matter your situation, if you’ve ever felt like you could use some help navigating your way through life as a couple, Two Rivers Therapy in Portland is the perfect solution. Dr. Jeffrey Post-Holmberg is here to lend an ear and a bit of practical, insightful advice for. Whether you’ve been together for 3 months or 30 years, if there’s something in your life together that’s giving you pause, schedule an appointment today to start the process of moving past it.